I’ve consciously learned to trust my first impressions/thoughts when doing a recording (before our old friend self-doubt creeps back in after a day). This time my gut told me ‘YES! Now that went deep and it felt right!’…Thank you very much, gut, now let’s write up some reflections…
I actually struggled to summarize the sheer amount of themes Connie and I delved into on Episode 2 — there was so much gold!
From the changing definition of what a ‘man’ is, to the very definition of happiness, to mental health, decentralisation of the workforce, comparison to others vs perfection, importance of one’s voice and balance in life. Most prominently, however, we visited and revisited the notion of having sustainable balance in life.
Although we did some great prep prior to the recording, one never really knows exactly where an episode will go. Which is totally fine — after all, the intent is to not pre-script and speak from the heart, see what happens on the day. But it’s still a road that isn’t clear, and for someone that tends to live in the ‘masculine’ (pre-plan and cook the hell out of a plan before going live) this can lend itself to quite a bit of nervousness if one is still pretty new to all this (put’s hand up).
I’ve always had a warm but businesslike relationship with Connie. That tends to happen when you work for someone. There’s trust and appreciation, but you’re still on the payroll to work.
Looking back, I never thought we’d connect on such a deep and meaningful personal level together. So Episode 2 was really special because we transcended between the business and personal worlds, and did so with authenticity and poise.
To have had the opportunity to hold space with someone of Connie’s caliber — an inspiring, award-winning, super-successful entrepreneur and CEO — was just magic. To hear her speak with such impact and insight on such an abundance of topics reinforced all the tribulations and doubts of my own in getting here. It felt right.
And in my opinion, these are exactly the sort of conversations we need to have as a society.
As we weaved through many interesting topics, the notion of living a balanced life really stood out to me as the key theme.
More and more Western society is realising that ‘status’, money and titles are only components of the overall ‘happiness’ or ‘fulfilment’ picture. Although for generations we’ve been collectively marketed to, both overtly and subliminally, that that’s all ‘it’s’ about, people are waking up. There’s more to it. These things may give you satisfaction for a short amount of time, but the nature of the human existence is to always want more. Need more. Yearn for more. Deeper stuff.
Whether it’s having those closer connections to fellow humans, or giving back to others through your time, money and attention — Connie highlighted and brilliantly summarized what made her life fulfilling through ‘four slices of the pie’ (in the last 10 minutes of the episode).
After all, humans are social creatures, and even though in the West we’ve grown apart from our ‘tribe’ with our collective focus on individuality, one could argue we’re still hardwired to yearn for a sense of belonging, of giving back, of feeling connected not just to self but to others as well. What better way than to give agency and choice back to people through charity that allows them to tread their own path in the future. And what an example for all of us.
I would also like to recognize and pay tribute to Connie’s early life story. Experiencing a tough upbringing at the hands of a violent alcoholic father, and needing to find your own strength and fortitude to swim rather than sink — this is worthy of great respect.
Owning your life, your decisions and your path, trusting your gut, leading from the heart and not blaming anyone else for the bumps in the road — now THAT resonated!
With the plethora of challenges awaiting the current and upcoming young generations, to hear a figure like Connie share her story and inspire strength via genuine, actionable advice can have an incredible ripple effect on those that watch and listen.
After all, we are not in control of many ‘macro’ events in our life, but we CAN control our interpretation and reaction to them. To this effect, I hope Connie’s messages can truly inspire young women (and men) to seek better and overcome their own negative circumstances on their path.
It would be awesome to chat with Connie again and delve even deeper — hopefully she’ll have me again 😉
Also, I didnt forget to clean the camera lens this time!
I hope you’re enjoying listening, watching and reading with me…let me know your thoughts on all this, and as always, may success be with you!