Every now and again I wonder why we cross paths with certain people in our life, and why we keep the company we do.
Of course, these are very substantial questions, none of which I can answer in totality. But in case of my buddy Brett Solomano this question was answered when we recorded Episode 4 together.
Wind back 14 years and we were crawling amongst the kangaroo poo (amongst doing other things) in the Australian Army Reserve.
Since then there have been career changes, immigrations, business starts, business failures and in general a wholesale evolution of the people we’ve come to be.
And yet when we reconnected after 14 years, it was incredible to discover this new side to us and to learn and grow from it. I certainly could not have foreseen this!
Moral of the story? We are who we are at a point in time, and you just never know where a relationship can go if you give it time and a little investment.
Take a look at your contact list and reconnect with someone — you just never know where the journey could take you!
Humans don’t tend to have natural predators these days, unless of course you’re scuba diving with sharks and crocodiles in Darwin Harbour. Yet our brains have retained the same fear responses that characterised our survival mechanisms hundreds of thousands or millions of years ago when we had all sorts of creatures to contend with.
Bless our brains for they have given us great progress as a species, but the wires within are still ancient.
So even though you’re not contending with a sabre-tooth tiger out there, the thought of doing a presentation or a cold call or getting set on fire (in Brett’s case) will elicit a similar response from your amygdala. FEAR. Fight or flight. GTFO.
Although we cannot control the initial onset of fear, we can control our response to it.
That’s why Brett’s insights into this topic were so valuable — because his approach to conquering fear is actually pretty-straight forward!
Calm the mind through your breath, slow that heart rate down and voila.
Take it from a pro that get’s set on fire, or reverses a semi-trailer truck 80km, or risks it all to move to the other side of the world with a dream!
It’s so beautifully simple and so effective. Heck, you can even have transcendental, psychedelic experiences with just breathwork. YOLO.
Wait…did I say YOLO?
Well, probably like you it’s a term I do use with a laugh.
But Brett coloured it differently, which I think i’ll adopt, and you should too — YODO. You Only Die Once, but you live every day.
Is there ever a statement that should exemplify an approach to life — it’s YODOBYLED. Ok maybe we’ll keep it digestible at YODO.
We know our time on earth is short. We know we’re gonna move on. We’re gonna die, guys. Until our consciousness an be uploaded into a cyborg, it’s gonna happen.
Yet why on earth do we pretend that time is limitless?
I don’t mean actually pretend in our heads (if you didn’t read the lines above, please backtrack), I mean put things off aligned with our inner self, our purpose, to a future arbitrary date.
That ‘tree’ or ‘sea’ lifestyle change? That dream business you wanna start? That trip around Australia or the world? ‘Yeah nah i’ll do it in my 40s/50s/60s’. ‘I’ll do it after x or y’.
Problem with that approach is, you, or your whole you may not be around.
Your health may deteriorate.
Your debt may be half the size of Tokyo by then.
Heck, you may be flush with cash, but what’s the point if you can’t enjoy it?
It can be a confronting realisation.
It shocks me when I think about some of the choices i’ve made — being locked in with so much debt, investment properties etc.
But the point is TO BE shocked by it. Because if you are, it forces you to confront the reality at hand.
Since the middle of 2022, I became so uncomfortable, so shocked that I just HAD to take steps to make changes.
If you can impart this thinking and approach into everyday life, I will guarantee you your discomfort will get to such a level that you WILL start making changes.
Just remember, money can be earned, re-earned and recovered — your time cannot.
Stay sane out there, lots of crazy sh!t going on in the world…just remember your heart has the answers. Tune in to it.
May success be with you 💙 💚
Watch episode on YouTube -> https://youtu.be/CTnoCe31mjY